I get myself flowers every so often because I love me

Self-love has always been shunned by our society, and every thought of loving oneself comes with a nagging thought of “Am I a selfish person?”. Yet how do we expect others to love us and desire us with boundless passion if we cannot love ourselves without feeling shame? When we love ourselves without prejudice, itContinue reading “I get myself flowers every so often because I love me”

Why wait for the next life when I can do it all Now?

As I lay in bed this morning, naked, admiring my body through the lens of my phone camera, it occurred to me that I have spent decades body shaming myself about the little that I did not have, and been completely oblivious to how gorgeous the rest of me is! Self-doubt and shame about theContinue reading “Why wait for the next life when I can do it all Now?”

What men want, or so they think?

We have been in lockdown 4.2 for a while now, and there shall be no mingling for quite some time. These strange times have seen us all forced into taking the pace of life down a notch. It’s like the Gods all conspired against the human race and decided to put us in time-out for our shenanigans.  Continue reading “What men want, or so they think?”

People want to wine’o’clocks with me, and I just want to run!

I am blessed to have so many lovely friends, that I always have someone or the other checking on me to see how I am going through this Iso! Really, I am the luckiest woman ever, seeing as my village is made up of all these lovely, thoughtful, kind people. Thank you all, for alwaysContinue reading “People want to wine’o’clocks with me, and I just want to run!”

What’s in a name?

Conforming to social norms always makes me claustrophobic and makes me feel like I am a potato sitting in a sack with all the other potatoes! Don’t get me wrong, I love potatoes and I feel very secure in the knowledge that all potatoes offer the same carby satisfaction when I need a potato fix!Continue reading “What’s in a name?”

My love affair with sunshine

COVID19 is a terrible virus that has brought the world down on its knees, but in some ways, it has changed our lives for the better. I have so much more free time now than I ever did in my whole adult life because there are so many non-essentials that I just cannot do anymore.Continue reading “My love affair with sunshine”

The dishwasher – a symbol of my failed marriage

Every time I stack the dishwasher, I am reminded of the first meeting I had with my (then) husband, when I told him I wanted out. I sat across the table from him in a coffee shop, as I couldn’t bring myself to have that discussion at home. We discussed the impending end of ourContinue reading “The dishwasher – a symbol of my failed marriage”

Girlfriends that call you out on your shit and hold you up through the darkness

 I have a bunch of awesome friends who have held me up through the worst time of my life. They call me out on my bullshit, they tell me when I am being unrealistic, shoot down my pointless dreams. But they built me up, they held me tight through the dark days, they listen toContinue reading “Girlfriends that call you out on your shit and hold you up through the darkness”

7.6b people on planet earth and I could not have one of them just hold me

I had been lonesome for years, but all the noise and chaos of having to work through a breaking marriage never afforded me the time to feel the loneliness. Now here I was, being my own person, I could be who I wanted to be, do what I wanted to do, and yet all IContinue reading “7.6b people on planet earth and I could not have one of them just hold me”

2020, the year we lost time, I found myself

Running is great! I shed 15 kilos and a husband! I walked/ran 3.3 million steps last year. First, I ran to get away from my pain, then I ran to feel the pain, then I ran to get a hit of that endorphin release! Running is like a state of trance, one can move withContinue reading “2020, the year we lost time, I found myself”